These days there are a lot of options for finding information regarding intimate relationships. Most of them are crude and full of misconceptions. Allowing oneself to indulge in the wrong kinds of information can bring lasting hardship to a relationship.
Intimate relations, like other aspects of a marriage need to be carried out with a solid measure of respect and admiration. There is no room here for selfishness. The danger of causing lasting emotional damage is far too great for that. Rather approaching intimacy with an attitude of seeking only to please rather than to be pleased will help ensure a level of confidence and respect that will bring lasting returns.
The idea that a person is an object, only to be used selfishly can manifest itself very clearly during intimacy. This often is an extension of an attitude that permeates other areas of the relationship, but which here leaves deep and lasting scars. These frustrations can build into very damaging feelings that can ultimately ruin the relationship.
Showing posts with label respect. Show all posts
Showing posts with label respect. Show all posts
Sunday, April 12, 2009
Sunday, March 15, 2009
Gratitude For Your Spouse
Are you grateful for your spouse? After the time you have spent, are you thankful that he or she was there for you? Are you grateful that they work or clean or tend to children? Have you thought about that little task that they did which they didn’t really have to do?
Did you say thank you?
Did you respond in kind?
Do you work just as hard to make things nice at home?
Showing gratitude to any person is a sign of respect and admiration. Over the years it is very easy to get used to a person or to simply come to expect that they will accomplish their tasks without prompting. The grind of the daily routine does not make it any easier or any more commonplace. Each individual still deserves a measure of gratitude.
Did you say thank you?
Did you respond in kind?
Do you work just as hard to make things nice at home?
Showing gratitude to any person is a sign of respect and admiration. Over the years it is very easy to get used to a person or to simply come to expect that they will accomplish their tasks without prompting. The grind of the daily routine does not make it any easier or any more commonplace. Each individual still deserves a measure of gratitude.
Sunday, February 22, 2009
Forgiveness in Marriage
Perhaps the most necessary ingredient in forming a happy relationship is the ability to forgive. If you haven’t discovered yet, then you will one day, that everyone near us will hurt us sooner or later. There are no exceptions to this rule. Humans lack the ability to constantly act responsibly to each other.
Sooner or later your spouse will do something to hurt you. Now, the question becomes what are you going to do in response.
Now, to be clear I’m not talking about abusive actions, particularly those involving violence, which need to be dealt with professionally and perhaps legally. I am speaking of the little ills that lead to the great catastrophes.
What are you going to do? Will you react harshly? Will you get even? Will you say nothing and hope for the best? Will you actively seek to change your heart and find a way to respond kindly?
There is no situation that cannot be made worse through retaliation. There is no grudge that cannot be hardened if we try. By the same token, the hardest of grudges at one point was nothing more than a common annoyance. At what point will you allow your annoyances to grow into grudges?
Sooner or later your spouse will do something to hurt you. Now, the question becomes what are you going to do in response.
Now, to be clear I’m not talking about abusive actions, particularly those involving violence, which need to be dealt with professionally and perhaps legally. I am speaking of the little ills that lead to the great catastrophes.
What are you going to do? Will you react harshly? Will you get even? Will you say nothing and hope for the best? Will you actively seek to change your heart and find a way to respond kindly?
There is no situation that cannot be made worse through retaliation. There is no grudge that cannot be hardened if we try. By the same token, the hardest of grudges at one point was nothing more than a common annoyance. At what point will you allow your annoyances to grow into grudges?
Sunday, February 15, 2009
Kindness in Marriage
Kindness to one’s spouse is, in my opinion paramount to a happy relationship. Parts of marriage involve service and duty, respect and honor. Very often people find themselves in the role of expecting the honor and duty without giving thought to their side of the equation.
As human beings we all long for and need to feel respected and included. For men and women the sources of these feelings can come from very different stimuli, but the need always continues. By showing kindness to our spouse we are seeking out the stimulus that will help them to feel fulfilled in their lives.
The kindness expressed can be small or large and can come in a variety of forms, but it must be present and must come often enough to have meaning. Smiles and a regular helping hand will generally be returned with a measure of warmth and gratitude.
As human beings we all long for and need to feel respected and included. For men and women the sources of these feelings can come from very different stimuli, but the need always continues. By showing kindness to our spouse we are seeking out the stimulus that will help them to feel fulfilled in their lives.
The kindness expressed can be small or large and can come in a variety of forms, but it must be present and must come often enough to have meaning. Smiles and a regular helping hand will generally be returned with a measure of warmth and gratitude.
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