Kindness to one’s spouse is, in my opinion paramount to a happy relationship. Parts of marriage involve service and duty, respect and honor. Very often people find themselves in the role of expecting the honor and duty without giving thought to their side of the equation.
As human beings we all long for and need to feel respected and included. For men and women the sources of these feelings can come from very different stimuli, but the need always continues. By showing kindness to our spouse we are seeking out the stimulus that will help them to feel fulfilled in their lives.
The kindness expressed can be small or large and can come in a variety of forms, but it must be present and must come often enough to have meaning. Smiles and a regular helping hand will generally be returned with a measure of warmth and gratitude.